Hello Bex. Im very sorry you are here. Im just getting caught up, and this struck me.
THE DB process is really all about you. So, the changes you make should be FOR you. That means that really, these should be LIFELONG changes. If you get dressed up "just for him", then it doesnt really mean much in the long run; it comes off as a trick to "get him back". If you change for him, then a few weeks/months/years down the road, you will revert back to 'normal'.
