Wife is in love with another man

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Thanks Bear, so good to have others in similar sitch on these boards. I've been reading them daily and it helps with any feelings of loneliness I have. I wouldn't say things went super fast, I am sure there are many more waves of emotions that I will go through (yesterday after seeing her for example). I still have a bit of trouble reaching 100% productivity at work, but really am happy with the changes I'm making, I really think I can be a great and more knowledgeable husband for someone in the future - maybe even my wife after our divorce.

You're absolutely correct, children involved makes everything more difficult I imagine. I have 2 children from previous relationships, and they are a bit devastated by the divorce. She has been a stepmother to them for 12+years. I think it helped me move forward with things after I was able to forgive her betrayal / deceit. Working hard on GAL and acceptance everyday now, and it's really tough. The most difficult part for me is keeping myself from calling / texting / writing letters. I do slip up on occasion but get back to it. Plus, she typically calls every day or every other day. Sometimes I go 3-4 days max without hearing from her. I also make keeping a busy schedule a priority, and that has been very helpful as well.