That said, why are you sleeping in the same bed and snuggling and such? It seems like you are allowing him the beenfits of being married after he said he didnt want to be married anymore.
Azzork- That is a good point. (DON'T SHOOT BUT..) Up until maybe a week ago I was still sleeping with him. In my head I thought, maybe it means he cares. Maybe if he comes home to me and still wants me then maybe he's not going elsewhere. The night he came home was around 1:30 am. I thought he was going to sleep on the couch or something so when he came into our room to snuggle and kiss my face, hold my hand, and just be there..I just accepted it. I KNOW deep down I should have rolled over and told him to go away, it was just the first time in SUCH a long time that he wanted to snuggle that I caved. I REALLY need to work on that. I also stopped having sex with him because I then started to worry maybe he is ONLY coming home because i'm an easy person who won't say no, and it has NOTHING to do with anything besides sex. That's when I was like..alright I need to just say no and stop.
These are good in concept. But I think you need to be more measurable. How will you know if you are 'giving him space'? What discrete actions are you going o do or not do? Try to make your goals as specific and measurable as possible. That way you can look back and really judge whether you accomplished them.
That's a good question. I don't actually know If I am giving him enough space. I think I am. He works overnights and sleeps all day. He only see's me when he comes to our house. I only talk to him when he calls or texts me. Do you have any suggestions on how to come up with more measurable ways to KNOW if i'm giving enough space?
