Let's talk a minute about the sex. I understand having kids, working full time, and having health problems. What about your level of desire? I am not asking if you are high drive or low drive. I'm asking about craving your husband's sexual intimacy.
We women can talk all around it. We can justify being too tired, which is often the case b/c if what I have read is true, women cannot physically hold out nonstop like a man can. However, when we tell the H at bedtime that we are just too worn out to make love.......he takes it extremely personal. And, (b/c I've been down the road) I learned that it affects him in ways we may never even considered.
How strong do you feel attraction for your H? In spite of being a super couple, best friends, etc., let's get down to brass tacks. How much do you actually feel the pull of pure sexual attraction? Hey, it's okay to tell the truth. I will be the first to admit I didn't feel it for my H. I didn't care if we ever had sex again. When tested by a hormone specialist, I was told my sex hormones had flatlined. In today's hurry up over-stressed world, it is quite common in M's. And if health issues exihereof adds to the stress in the lack of sex. Sometimes, there is a possibility of HRT, and it can do wonders.
I also understand pregnancies too close together. That old saying that I was afraid for him to hang his pants on the bedpost, was true for me. But here's the thing, to a man it sounds like another excuse. And to a woman who has said many of the same things you are saying...........I have to ask you if you are very sure the real reason is that you are not interested b/c you just don't feel that strong attraction to him. I am not suggesting you don't love him, so please don't misunderstand.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
