Oh Trumpet - that's huge! It will also be HUGE for her to deal with her emotions & reactions. You are so strong...that's what she needs.

I hear you about my own "guilt", but it doesn't negate the need for me to do the right thing. Regardless of him, I have to.
Thanks for the encouragement - I need the *specifics!*
I *have* been dressing up more, wearing perfume, being feminine. That part is not *really* fake...but it is much more than I used to bother with. More makeup too. Of course, I am 42. ;-)

But I'm also a size 2, athletic, long hair, yadda yadda. I hate even the hint of vanity, but yeah, it's there. Blah.
Anyway, it's really encouraging and good to hear about the D being on hold. I'm sure its hard not to feel a lot of emotion about that right now but my impression is that you shouldn't express that (right?). I'm sure you've got this - your faith has never left you, even in the darkest hours. Hugs to you, Trumpet.

Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?