My wife is going through withdrawls, and is a very hurt animal right now. Every time I try to give words of support, I get spew back at me. For someone who fought to get to where we are, it's not a nice way to be treated. She did say she'd follow up with the divorce stay, stopping the divorce for now. Broke off the EA with OM. Happy, but lots of work ahead, and I see my wife having to learn to deal with her emotions, and recognizing them before she reacts to them.
How do you remain? I think your guilt in having to do your 'wifely duties' is high, and you need to stop the thought process that if you don't do x,y,z as a good Christian wife you'll commit some sin. You need to stop beating yourself up for your husband's behavior.
Think of him as a bad roommate right now. Stay away from him, make your comments pithy, and find the need to talk and express yourself not only through prayer, but through family and friends. Find new friends.
I also think doing your nails is awesome. It's a start. Dress up. Feel REALLY good about yourself. Don't chase him, he's chasing you to pull you in the pit that he's in. Confidence and poise. Fake it.
You can do this. You have it within you.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
