Thank you Job,

I appreciate your kindness! Will read the 'depression' articles.

Oh, I recall it was three to four months before bomb dropped, I had the feeling of strange icy and distance between my husband and I, just I did not know what was going on and will be happening... he could be already in stage of replay for a short time before bomb dropped, correct ? I might be a careless wife and I never thought he would become like this...

I have to remind myself always - I did not break him, I can not fix him.
At the beginning, I bought all the mean things he said to me, the guilt is killing me until I learned that the man in midlife crisis blames his wife for everything.