Don't know what to do anymore...

[Zues126]

Painter, I understand. Once I asked H "how are you today?" and his answer was a very angry "What do you mean by that?" It is awful to be always walking on eggshells and be the target of so much anger and negativity.

I hope you get some sleep tonight and know that this really is not about you. If sleeping in your own room will give you the space you need, then stick with that boundary.

To quote you. "On a bad day, I'm committed to my commitment."

Hang in there, its just one more bad day.

Thanks for making me laugh! It's a sad award, but I think you just won it.

I remember years ago in court, when H was in a custody hearing with his ex. He was asked by her L (a very reasonable person who didn't like her own client much, but H didn't like her voice) what kind of relationship he had with his kids. That was his chance to wax about how close and loving they were - but he instead answered angrily, "What do you mean? I'm their father!"

To be fair, I went through the social services thing a couple of months ago...I was so angry about having to audition for the right to see my children that when I was preparing my summary the first three days all I could think to say is to tell them all I hoped they burned in hell forever. It's pretty disgusting.

Sorry things are so tough right now. I've posted a lot on Kyrie's last thread, her H is impossible to deal with. I wrote some good things about the mission statement and have quoted it. Have you stumbled upon that?

Keep expectations low and be patient. I am divorced, my life is good, I don't miss ex...but I have lost something I'll never get back. I played pool leagues tonight and I keep hearing stories about divorce...the guy I played talked about his first wife...the waitress there just left a friend of mine and is a WAW...everyone is split up...and none of them are leaving and pairing up with their dream spouse...it is one long story of tragedy, pain, and misunderstanding. The only question is whether you have tragedy, pain, and misunderstanding with one person for your whole life or not.

Cliff notes, be appreciative you have a husband you can sleep in a different room from and be hurt by.