Rednail, sorry you're here but you can't find a better group.
So far you're off to a great start. My only tip at the moment is not to measure your progress with his behavior. You've got a graph with two different lines: Your behavior, and his. Yes, the whole point of DB is that you can influence the M without changing him (it takes one to tango)...but make sure to pat yourself on the back when you're doing well, even if it's the day he decides to see a lawyer or something. I hope it doesn't go that direction, but if it does don't think it reflects on how well you are doing. The hardest thing about marriage is that you really can't control him, so keep doing the great work on you and have faith that whatever happens life will work out.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
