Don't know what to do anymore...

[Painter]

Painter, I understand. Once I asked H "how are you today?" and his answer was a very angry "What do you mean by that?" It is awful to be always walking on eggshells and be the target of so much anger and negativity.

I hope you get some sleep tonight and know that this really is not about you. If sleeping in your own room will give you the space you need, then stick with that boundary.

To quote you. "On a bad day, I'm committed to my commitment."

Hang in there, its just one more bad day.

Thanks for making me laugh! It's a sad award, but I think you just won it.

I remember years ago in court, when H was in a custody hearing with his ex. He was asked by her L (a very reasonable person who didn't like her own client much, but H didn't like her voice) what kind of relationship he had with his kids. That was his chance to wax about how close and loving they were - but he instead answered angrily, "What do you mean? I'm their father!"