Painter, I understand. Once I asked H "how are you today?" and his answer was a very angry "What do you mean by that?" It is awful to be always walking on eggshells and be the target of so much anger and negativity.
I hope you get some sleep tonight and know that this really is not about you. If sleeping in your own room will give you the space you need, then stick with that boundary.
To quote you. "On a bad day, I'm committed to my commitment."
