H feels that everything I say, is criticism or an attack. It's so bad that today, when I told him I had washed some of his nice pants in case he wanted them for a meeting tomorrow (I thought that was a nice thing to do), he defensively answered that he *had* nice pants that were clean.

I did forget to call his doc, so I'm not getting a second chance - he'll call himself tomorrow.

How do I deal with this?

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17