I could hardly stay under the same roof, much less court him! He didn't really know how to encourage me, I suppose. He never asked what he could do to help me. I think he wanted to but just didn't know how. He had no idea about the mindset of a WW, and just expected me to immediately bounce back to my old self (the one who had always been the worker in the MR). He did do small acts of service, b/c that is his LL........but not really mine. He did not have the tools you have received. He didn't even ask for transparency, however, I had learned the importance of it from the board. So, I just did it.
He was kind and patient, b/c he is the nice-guy type. He forgave and did not throw it up in my face. He never has. I wanted MC, but he flatly refused. Whatever feelings he had, he kept locked away. He has never opened himself to me very much at all.
You have to remember, he was not the one who came here seeking help.......I was. So, it doesn't help you to look at my H, b/c he did not seek out any tools. He didn't work to change. I was the one who made the changes. The board was my counselor.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
