G8r,

My 'answer' or response wouldn't include the adultery. It makes absolutely no difference in WI. No fault state.

She is a good mom, and she wanted 50/50 custody from the paperwork, so we would have most likely gotten the financials and child placement down pretty easily.

My telling everyone she had an affair, and it possibly being in the court docs, would put more shame on my wife, and would have made reconciling harder. Those who are in my inner circle knew - those in her inner circle knew, and were ok with it (REALLY? SO IF YOUR HUSBAND CHEATS ON YOU, IT'S OK?)

Sorry, today I'm dealing with a few friends who I'm angry and disappointed in. I can kind of understand not taking a side. I don't have a clue what you're thinking when you're a Christian, and don't have a backbone when someone is doing something they shouldn't be doing, and you continue to support them. Would they let a friend steal out of their house? Steal their car?

If you love them - GREAT! But turning your eyes to bad behavior, when you know better, just gets me upset. I know it happens all the time, but if you're a friend, show love, and at least make an effort to show them the other side of the coin.


M46, EXWW46
M15 T17
D20, S19, D13
M - Addiction since 1998
W EA/PA #1 2013/2014
W EA #2 June 2015...
BD 1 Big D talk 9/15
BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15
Served D 1/22/16
Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)