Went well. Will sit and wait for the stay of the divorce. We'll have 4-6 months to work things out, and get back with the court if we want to proceed. Lawyer knew her stuff, and she's on vacation, so we'll be in touch in Feb. with what happens in the next week.
Wife was absolutely livid when I got home. I guess a bad day at the office, her OM called her at work, and she finally had to face her fears and tell him that it was Done-Done. Lots of withdrawl anger last night. And then me talking to a lawyer put her over the top. Kids were concerned with how angry she was - D14 texted me when I was driving home.
I just kept validating, and letting her know I saw how angry and upset she was. She would come at me with some anger darts, and I just listened as best I could.
In the end, she just told me to leave her alone and I said goodnight.
Great group counseling session this morning. A few texts with wife. She's still planning on IC on Friday, and scheduled a meeting with our pastor today. She let me have her phone last night, and I saw she deleted OM's info, pictures, email, and all texts from her phone.
Should I give her credit for taking that step? Should I say nothing? I kind of feel like I need to help her along this a bit - she's in withdrawls, and part of me wants to tell her what she's doing is a good thing, and I'm here if she wants to talk...
Anyone have opinions on this?
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
