1) I'm going on a short trip soon (3-4 nights). Do I ask H if he would like to watch her for me? She was "our" dog and he told her when he moved out he wished he could take her with him (he really did). He seems to miss her a bit.
2)I plan on acknowledging H's b-day with a quick text, regardless of what he does on mine (I expect he will ignore mine). Our anniversary follows that very quickly. Should I just ignore it? I feel that I should.
Hi Ciluzen. Your dog sounds so sweet!
I think I would ask your H about looking after her but I don't seem to be very good at all this detachment stuff so it might not be the correct DBing way to go.
As for your H's birthday, that's a tricky one too. I have two tales to tell here. When my H left the first time, 9 years ago, my birthday fell about a month later. He didn't even get me a card or text me and I was totally crushed. It was also our anniversary the next day and same again - didn't hear from him. This time round it was my H's birthday a few days before Christmas. Obviously with my children still being young I had to organise something from them and I did get a card from me and a small gift. Right up to the last minute I was unsure whether to give them but I did in the end and he was very shocked that I had bothered to. I'm sure the correct DBing answer will be don't get anything but for me it just felt wrong. I still love my H and wanted to do it. It's a tough decision but I think you have to do what you will feel happiest with.
