Doing better....Oh wait

[Enigma]

Hey OTW, just here for support.

I haven't caught up completely on your sitch but overall you appear to be doing well.

I know how difficult it is to keep your mind from not thinking of her. It always seems the more you try to stop your mind from wandering that direction the more it wants to on its own.

I think naturally over time the thoughts and pain will diminish, but no magic button unfortunately where one day you find yourself not thinking of her or better yet she snapping back to reality. With that continue to have fun with your kids and enjoy your quality time with them as you are. As your mind may in fact race, know that your kids are building a wonderful experience with their dad which from their perspective is very important.

Also, I like Vise's thought on hobby / GAL and the "What would you love to do"? This is key in my own personal books. I didn't know what I loved or passions, so I explored. Even learning something new can take your mind and focus away from your sitch. So what are you passionate about? Or what is something new you thought about doing at one time but never started? Now is that time.