Wife wants to leave but still at home.

[mbebos]

I am very sorry you are here. These people on the board know their stuff. I can also recommend the DB coaching sessions, mine have been great. It is the like the forums, but much more personal. Stick to the 180s and the detaching, it is so darn hard. Be your best with her, and be your worst when you need to when you are alone or here.