asambandha

[dday]

Mu, please, work on letting go. For me, it was "If she wants to treat me this way, and do this to my family, then I do not want to be with her." It helped me tremendously. I still don't agree with it, or want it, but have accepted it.

I am sure that you see that your WW is a different person now. As long as she is this "new" WW, there isn't much that you can do about her and her actions toward you.

Detaching, to me, felt wrong. Felt like I was betraying myself, kids and XW. But in the end, I have not quit. I have just accepted that this is my life now. Not what I had planned, but maybe it will be better than ever because of this. And I feel so much lighter and am able to have fun again. It was like a switch flipped inside me.

You are a great person mu. You don't deserve to be disrespected like this by someone you love. Just my 2 cents.

Be well.