Babe, Sure you can stick w/this thread here and we'll come over to visit you here. Post your questions and someone will be happy to answer them. It may not always be Cadet or myself, but others will come along and post to you.
Now about the therapist situation, yes, unfortunately, the crisis person usually will not go to a therapist. If they do go, they will only go the one time or eventually the therapist will say something that they can turn around to their benefit. I don't advocate suggesting counseling when they are in crisis. I encourage the spouses to just leave them alone and allow them to figure things out for themselves. When they are ready to seek help, they'll do so. On the other hand, I do believe that many who are in the early stages of their spouses' crises could benefit from a visit to a physician for AD's and/or just someone to talk to, i.e., a divorce group or a counselor for themselves.
For now, keep the focus on you. Read as much as you can about depression because it is the main ingredient of a MLC.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
