Here again after 9 years and struggling 3

[Irish M]

Hi Inpain

Hope you feel better soon. Emotions do run high when not rested or sick.

I too think your H is genuinely interested in your opinion on his job search. He also confirmed it to you.
You answered it very well in both saying it doesn't concern you and that it would have been the dream hours if you were still together.

As for him helping you. That's great . Is it because he needs to relieve guilt? Is it because he considers you a friend and he's helping out? Is it because the old H is shinning through? I'm sure all these questions and more ran through your head. And the answer doesn't matter. Take it for what it is and that's it. Say thanks when he does do something for you. He's watching you and your changes and attitude are being recorded in the back of his mind. If you come off as hurt, angry, upset or weak he'll avoid. There's not much sympathy or empathy with these MLC'r so he won't feel sorry for you.

So if he wants to help. Let him and accept it. Thank you's are always nice to hear.
If you don't need his help then just tell him you'll manage alone.

Get some rest if you can.

Irish