The Start of my Happiness 2

[Enigma]

In my opinion I don't think you asking to speak to your kids goes against your D'bing approach. I suggest looking at an overall co-parenting plan and ensure both your wants and needs are there this is all about the kids and putting them first. You wanting to talk to them is a great part of that. That also means she gets the same if she chooses as well as two way street. And you guys can designate amount of time to speak and frequency, etc.

All depends on how you guys work together and for kids benefit, but these arrangements can be made.