Thanks Melweb and Trumpet. Well, it went ok. Mostly giving the background. She seemed to get it and thinks (from what I said, not trying to diagnose) he may be bipolar. It ended with her saying I should write out pros & cons of both staying and divorcing. But understanding that he may not change, which echos what many of you have said. It made me think again about that possibility...I hate that it's even an option and that I'm considering it. It shouldn't be. But it is. I think for me, it comes down to 2 things: Did he really have a PA? (never confirmed or denied) Is he capable of apologizing, at some point for that? For all of this, but especially that? Maybe I'll work on my list and start that as my new thread. Maybe I can get with the DB coach on Friday. Maybe, maybe, maybe.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
