Cali I think you hit the nail on the head! I've been really struggling with my identity since this all started happening. A lot of advice about "becoming someone a fool would leave" and GAL I agree with but struggle with putting it into action. I don't really remember who the girl was that he fell in love with. I don't know how to focus on myself when my day starts and ends with kids.
I will definitely make those lists and start working on enacting them daily! My therapist and I were also discussing how I just have to surrender control right now. Basically follow the serenity prayer and take control of my own actions while realizing I can't change his. He also put the concept of acceptance into a great perspective. Accepting the situation doesn't mean I like it, but I need to live in reality and not my fantasy of R.
S9 struggled a little tonight but took his meds and they're all asleep, so I'm calling it a win!
