Fortunately, H and guest are not staying here so it's just a matter of turning down invites when she is included. But I don't want to push it too far.
He said after we first hired her that he considered her like the daughter he never had and he gets very defensive of her sometimes. He's very aware of my feelings about her and why. I suspect he'd like things to be patched up between us, but I just can't go there. When h was with ow, this "guest" pulled a stunt that was incredibly disrespectful to me and to h. But when I finally told h about it months later, he just said she was young, stupid and drunk when she did it. He defended her. Sorry, that doesn't fly for me.
The whole sitch has the potential to be damaging if I don't play it right. I don't feel like it would be a good move to completely avoid her. I just have to choose wisely how I interact with her on a very limited basis. I wish I could put on a happy face, act as if and just get through the next two weeks. I don't think I can go that far.
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013