I do know that her dad was a truck driver and was a cheater. Her mother went on the road with him to stop his wondering eye. Let my wife at home by herself when she was 13 or 14. She had 2 older brothers and a much younger brother living with her. She told my daughter while her father was in the hospital that her dad was a cheater. My daughter asked how do you know. My wife told her because "I was there. One night my dad walked into a bar with his girlfriend. I was a teenager and was in the bar. I walked over to the table and sat down and talked with them. I know not a proud moment for me." My daughter asked her later when her EA came our if they had ever talked about the encounter. My wife told her it was never mentioned again. Her father was a very selfish, stubborn man that picked on my very young kids to the point they would cry. My kids were not close to him. Now it is like he was the most wonderful man. My wife posts all of the posts on Facebook and Pintrest about how much she misses him and how much she is grieving and no one understands. Sandi, I have stopped contacting my wife and she initiates 90 to 95 percent of all of the contact by text. But I have not heard from her in a week to 10 days except when I told her that I would be praying for peace and strength on the anniversary of her dad's death. I did that because she had made it a point early on to let me know I never acknowledged one month, 3 month 6 months milestones of his death but her friends in her hometown did. Do you think it is too late? I believe that she will return home when my daughter marries and starts having children but that may not include me. A friend of mine told me that she did not believe that she is looking for a man because she is trying to find a job and figure all this out. I know that she is trying to make me believe that she is doing great and all is good. I read some of your story last night. My sitch is different than yours. We didn't have sex as much as I would have liked but we were having it at least once a month. my wife had some problems with painful sex. We did everything together. When she would go shopping, she would always want me to go with her and I did, Holding the packages and doing all the driving. I took her to all of her out of town doctors appointments. My daughter was a softball player and a friend of mine said that at the games the dads would be with each other and the moms together but not me and my wife, we were always together. I do know that she was stressed because she did not like her job and I had lost mine and was having a hard time finding a job. She used that as the excuse for her EA. I think it is funny because she quit a very good job to move 500 miles away to live with her mother and can not find a job. We had a good marriage. When people ask me now about where is my wife and I tell them she left me they are floored. They can not believe it. My wife's EA was the brother of a hometown friend. I believe that she manipulated her and tried her best to badmouth her life with me because we were so involved with my daughter's softball career. From what my wife told a friend of ours, Since the end of her EA this friend has pretty much stopped talking to her. I know this is a lot of information but I am willing to try to pray and wait this out. I just wish I had a little bit of hope.
