So sorry about XF's mother on top of everything else...
I know what you mean about all the lies and being told you'll never change because you discovered them. I think this must be classic WW script.
I also found a prescription for Viagra, which was certainly not being used for my benefit. He claimed he was faithful, and only got the prescription out of curiosity to see what it would do. Suuuuuurrre. I believe him...don't you?
The funny thing was, just like your XF, he was the master of righteous indignation at being found out..."this is why we can't move on...you always do this...you never believe me....yada yada yada" Sound familiar? Before I had proof of the A, he would actually berate me and act like his life was so hard because he had to deal with this suspicious wife all the time and it was so unfair. I always felt so bad, like maybe I *was* the one with an issue, and would try even harder next time to suppress my instincts. But it turned out I was right about every suspicion I had.
Anyhoo...don't let him make you feel bad. He is just trying to deflect the blame on to you to justify his actions. You deserve so much better, and until he cleans up his act and is ready to give that to you, you are better off not giving him your time or concern at all.
Thanks Anna. His mom doing poorly is not going to make going dark possible.
And yes I had the same problem when ow sent me proof as well. She's crazy....shes a liar....She's just trying to come between us because "I picked you" and not her. Ummmm...what!?
And it has to be a script. It just has to be. Shifting blame onto us. Classic crazy.
And why yes Anna, I completely believe your H got Viagra to test it out. LOL these men are unbelievable.
And everything your H said to you my F has said to me. I am not going to let him make me feel badly, he is trying to deflect like if it's a fulltime job. And in between that he peppers his crazy deflector soup with "love" bombs.
Be honest or leave me alone. And it's only been a few hours but I have not contacted him at all. I have not responded to his crazy. And the tables have turned as far as R talk. I do NOT want to talk about us, the condoms or anything else. And he keeps doing just that. Last voicemail I got was to say....." It's beyond me why you still go through my things when I never go through yours. And I have been cheated on before and still trust you and take your word for things. I love you. I really do love you. The other night was so great. We laughed and were a family again for a little while. But I can't spend my life trying to explain myself. It isn't fair. Anyway I love you and I haven't cheated. I'm sorry you dont believe me"
Crazy deflector soup anyone? Because I have plenty.
