Alright, Cali and Hawho, you are 2 that stick out in my mind that have the patience of Saints. Seriously, I read your posts, you guys are thrown curve balls left and right, and remain solid and calm in standing. How are you doing this?? Please fill me in on your secret....because I get thrown nothing but niceness, and I feel like throwing something, kicking dirt on H shins, and having a tantrum.
I really don't know how you guys do it. Cali, at least you are getting mini R talks here and there, so you know a bit what is spinning in W. Maybe it helps in having something to work with?
M, you must realize I always spit out my drink whenever anyone accuses me of being ‘patient’ as its somethings I often find myself struggling with which I believe in any LBS who is dealing with an MLCr and their crisis , we are not talking weeks nor months here … YEARS are required .. YEARS. I think for me M, the biggest thing is I would not be doing anything differently. Strange as it is I currently have little to no urge to have someone else fill that void W left when the crisis took her (just starting over in a R at this point makes me do that ‘there are cockroaches in my pants’ dance), when job compared it to the coma I was nodding my head in agreement because that is very similar to how I have approached it. I know there are times during this that we all would rather toss in the towel and call it quits, I have been there more than once I assure you ….” I may quit but not today” has been said in my head often during all this. I understand your frustration as you can not see if H is even working on things … if we can get a scrap here or there it does fuel us and helps keep us standing and its frustrating thinking we are holding out for God knows what and this all may possibly be all for not if they never do emerge from the tunnel. I do get it …. And as has been said there is a time when we all will know when to drop the rope and walk away for good … that is your choice.
The fact he did not come out …. I honestly think it was due to your mini-blast about the sitch … Pressure+MLC=Funtimes right? Their crisis and whatever they need to figure chit out … has little to do with us so the best we can do is leave them to it and during that time continue to work/rebuild/heal ourselves. Have you ever stopped to look at M now vs then? Just check stock and measure the serious amount of progress you have made in this last year …. I see a woman who has her chit together and has her house on lockdown making improvements and really took the bull by the horns ….. H even in the fog sees this. M just continue to do YOUR thing … if he wakes/peeks out great …. Do not feel like you are trapped nor tied to his sinking ship because you are far from that, you have blossomed into a remarkable woman through all this.
