WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE Part II

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Sandi,

I think telling her I was still seeing a lawyer tonight put things in perspective for her. She knows what she needs to do, and gave me an excuse that she was too busy yesterday. Now, with her new job, she is crazy busy, but I wasn't put to the top of the list (well, she did call the lawyer and start the process of dissolving the divorce, which she did first thing...), or at least felt like it.

I did that to her for years. That is why she felt that our marriage was dead, and that she had permission to cheat. No excuses for what she did, but I own up to not doing her LL very rarely for years. Resentment is my excuse - she very rarely said my LL.

The issue of 'making things right' will be brought up, no doubt about that. Just now is not the time to bring that up.

She's lost about 25lbs over the last month. Working out 6 days a week. That has not stopped in the last few days - she's very motivated to change herself, and to feel better about herself. She is working on that, and her very low self-esteem is starting to change, bit by bit. It's not like I've had to stick a cattle prod into her side to get change to happen - she's been doing this already. That is a great sign, and something I keep encouraging her about.