Thanks ya'll. I tend to lean toward what you're saying V about forgiveness. Mostly we hear over & over that we NEED to forgive, and there's plenty of truth to that. But I also hear you about *asking for it* - repentance, etc. is a component of forgiveness. What did you mean about shame & guilt as models of greatness? and what do the 'deluded impoverished souls' need - compassion? Just wanted to be sure I understood you. Should be seeing the IC today. Not even sure how I want to tackle that... is it to sort out my own feelings or how to deal w/this crap (mostly what I think I should do w/the DB coach) or just how to communicate...ugh.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
