MB, when I saw W on Friday and she looked so happy, I thought it must be easy for her. I thought she wasn't even missing me at all. She was with all her friends, laughing and chatting. And she had never asked about the dogs, so I thought for sure she was enjoying a quiet house with no dog hair everywhere. I thought she must be remembering only the negative things about me and our life together.
I was wrong.
When she came to my office yesterday, she told me how much she misses me and the dogs and how lonely the house feels and how there is no energy in the place and how now she realizes all I did to make her life easier. It didn't change anything. We are still apart and there was no talk of a reconciliation.
The point is, mind reading gets us into trouble. Remember, absence does make the heart grow fonder. OW is trash. She's weak. She took him right back and she's only the adulterous A. She WON'T last. She won't. So keep GALing. And even if you don't really have anything to do, then read a book and think about what you need to be the woman he'd be a fool to leave behind.
I don't know how long you do NC, but do it for a bit longer.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
