Well, by cycling I mean he is all over the map! It's like living in a "Where's Waldo?" book.

You can spend a lot of your time watching your h and trying to figure out if that's the "real" Waldo. I was the queen of this so I can tell you what a colossal waste of time it is. It's like watching/analyzing a teenager's every move. Is this a useful endeavor?

Turn the focus to you and doing what YOU want.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced