Just a quick update. One month anniversary of ILYBNILWY was yesterday, and I'm surprised at how fast I have changed with GAL. There are still some very difficult emotional times but I certainly see I will be alright and have a bright future ahead. I did not think I would be coping this well so soon, and understand there may be another wave of emotions when I sign the paperwork. I am still not 100% with my focus, especially at work. I have a support group to attend Wednesday and counseling Thursday. Have continued my workout / mental / spiritual growth and am on a great track! 35lbs down and starting to feel really great about things. Emotions take over only once or twice a day, some days they don't impact me that much at all. Still not giving up on my marriage, but I'm only 1/2 of it so....

Thanks so much for the support here on the boards. I still read the infidelity section of DR every week, and am reading the 5 love languages now among other things.

M 43 W 45
M 10.5 T 15
S 26 D 17 (previous relationships)
ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D
Confirm affair 1/10/16
W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)