Ugghhh, have I mentioned this is hard?

[SciDad]

Yikes! Looks like I missed a little activity on my thread while I was snowed in! So before I update, I'll quickly respond.

First, I'm not blowing my cobwebs out that way. Never been into having sex just for the sake of having sex. For me it's gotta have an emotional tie or I may as well do it by myself. Also less chance of catching anything nasty that way....

Second, I think that the prospects are better for both men and women after divorce. But only if we did the work to learn how to improve ourselves and future relationships. It's not the reason why we did all this work on ourselves, but it's a very nice side-effect.

Third, there is nothing wrong noticing people of the opposite sex or being noticed by the opposite sex. I love ego boosts as much as the next person, and there have been times in the past few months where I really needed to see that people could find me attractive. But I'm not ready to settle for what's available - I want to get the best person for me.