The book of Lou - Chapter 5

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Lou,
I'm sorry to read about your health issues. If you are wearing heels to work, then you will need to start wearing flats that have a good sole/support on them for hitting the concrete/tile floors. Also, I discovered for myself, that if I ate foods that had a lot of salt in them, my knees would hurt. I don't know if that would happen to you, but you might want to pay closer to attention to what you are eating to see if something is making your knees and fingers hurt more. The OTC meds didn't work for me.

I ended up having a partial left knee replacement 3 years ago this month because of the same situation that you are in. I'm doing great and there is no pain in the knee now. The surgeon advised me that my right knee will need to be done when it starts to give me a fit...but for now...it's okay.

As for your h, he is no where near ready to recommit to you and the marriage. He's still looking to you as a friend and someone he can talk to about things. I am going to suggest that you text or call him once in a while. Not every day, but at least once a week.

As for your trip w/your girlfriends, if you don't have the funds, I would be honest w/them about your situation and cancel the trip. You can't put yourself in a financial bind right now because you don't know if you'll need what you have socked away for an emergency.

For now, I think you need to focus on your health issues and see what your options are for some relief to your knees and fingers. BTW, stress doesn't help when it comes to our health (I know you know this already...but just a reminder.)

Lou, it's okay to try something different w/your h. We advise here that if something isn't working, try something different and see what kind of reaction, if any, you'll get, i.e., positive or negative.

Please take care of yourself and get some really good flats to wear. Your high heel days are pretty over because of your knees for now.