I started Five Love Languages, and plan to go back and read it...
I'm currently reading Stosny - "You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One". This book is targeting wives with angry, resentful husbands, though it is intended to be read by anyone. This book is good so far, and frankly scaring me a little in wondering if during my angry outbursts was I ever that guy causing that much pain or fear in my W. In my new, better place, I'm reading this book as inspiration to NEVER be that guy with my family, and to figure out ways to tear down the walls of resentment...
This whole experience has been quite an awakening. Not sure where its going to go. I'm already finding myself when talking to other couples saying things like "cherish every day together, and put in the daily effort to keep it magical". Wish I had figured this out years ago, though I guess I wasn't ready to hear it and anyways I can't change the past. I'm starting to feel that the future is a new place, and that I will be fine and I'll be in a much better place for the others in my life like my kids. Still hoping that my W will come around, but feeling much less needy about that...
Feels like I've downgraded to the kiddie roller coaster with smaller bumps and scares, and that's not a bad thing :-)
Thanks to everyone for being so supportive. Its amazing how just knowing that others are out there that understand this sitch and are cheering you on can help me get through another day, another week. I can see why these forums seem so busy with people giving back to others...
