Stosny & Love - How to improve your marriage without talking about it. Great discussion on fear & shame reactions, and how to alter within your self so you're actually present to listen to others. I also liked how they framed, for the caveman in me, that if your core values are to be there for your family, you've got to man up and get to a spot where you can listen without anger and shame...
Nichols - Lost art of listening. Most of the way through this book, and it does bog down in a few places on theory, though there are a lot of good strategies on how to hear what others are saying. Its not only helping with my family, I've found it useful in my work in managing my team and dealing with customers...
I actually got a lot out of the Lost Art of Listening - apparently I was the person in our marriage who had the mjor communication issues, even though I accused my H of this. It has also helped me in dealing with work and other social situations. I would also recommend the Solo Partner and the Five Love Languages. Very helpful, also, in communicating with S.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
