Ugh! I'm pretty sure the courts would rule to have D4 stay in her current school even though its only preschool but seems like WXW is just trying to kick me when I'm down. Trying to cause as much havoc as possible.
Yep, so why did you contact her about it?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
You're right Sandi. It has been very very difficult. And there is no definite end in site. I agreed to allow her to stay until 7 days past the closing of my HELOC which I'll use to pay her her equity. Well the first bank failed to close. They said they would close by Dec 30th. The 2nd bank is working on it but when I refi'd the house last month in order to remove her from the loan and deed the 1st mortgage company didn't send in the lien release until Jan 20th and THEY MAILED IT!!!!! Who knows when it will arrive. The HELOC can't close until the county receives and processes this lien release.
Ugh! I can't help but believe God is using this trial to strengthen me. I'm not sure why He is creating an environment that is keeping us both in the house but I do know it is for His purpose and plan because it is definitely not mine or the path I would choose on my own.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Because if we are going to decide to have her in kindergarten every day all day it's an extra $325 per month that we would have to split. Part of child custody agreement is that we will discuss and agree on all major decisions regarding D4
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
She just sent another email that says " Just note, I was out of town for 2 days, and had hardly spoken to you at all when whatever triggered you happened. Please note, I also said over a week ago I would not be staying there when you're there. I'm sorry if the empty house is a "stressful environment".
She did say this but she was only away for 2 days, then she stayed at the house and then she was out of town for 2 nights. Then she stayed again. This is a great example of how she lives completely outside of reality.
not sure how to respond or if I even should?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
I'm journaling it all here and this is communication through email. So it will stored away.
She just sent another email that says "Please know, no one wants you to be better than I do! You have to do it for D4"
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
I will flat out say what I am thinking. I fear she is trying to build this as a case against you and custody. I don't know if you think that at all or not.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
I've always worried about that. I've kept a calendar since late August documenting who D4 choose to sleep with regardless of who has parenting responsibility. I've also recorded a couple instances where WXW lost control in front of the kids.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
I do still hope we both do our individual healing and then come back together again to reunite our family. I believe in a God of Miracles. He has over and over again given me the perfect messages when I needed them the most. On Sunday I was flipping channels looking for football when I came across Joel Olsteen. My friend said " Oh I like to listen to him sometimes." So I stopped flipping. His sermon was on a promise in Amos about our God being a God of acceleration. That He can bring about change that should take a long time in a second. The plower not be able to keep up with the harvester because blessings can come faster than we ever imagine. That we must pray with faith and expectation and that acceleration is coming. We may be in a time of waiting but acceleration is coming.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
