Peace, Happiness and a New Year

[mleigh4]

Job, I am watching the weather and just popped in to wish you well in these snow storms! I know you have a good supply of shovels, hope they are helping you in this time Are you snowed in?

So, I read your post above. I will read it again and process it. H being in a coma is a great comparison as the silence is the same. It does not surprise me, his whole family is this way, like robots.

In fact, MIL stopped by last night to drop off S English book that got left at her place. She told me about noticing her SIL having signs of dementia last summer, and had finally been told by her brother last week that she does. MIL told me, "I called my brother a few times, but SIL always answered so I wasn't able to talk to him" And I thought to myself, what is so hard about calling, asking to talk to brother, and asking him if all is ok?? Instead, after 6 months, he broke down and called her in tears for help. She is just such a strange bird to me. I see why H never learned how to just say what is on your mind, that it is ok.

Anyway, Job, I will think about what you said. I suppose, if H was in coma for 2 1/2 years and was showing no sign of waking up, it would be a struggle as well, but I think I know what I would do. It's a get mindset for me, a real good comparison.....