I think you need to be leery of any statements from her such as she doesn't think you would ever forgive her. Listen, it's time to stop dancing to her music.....do you hear me? It is time to shut down her wishy-washy games. Let her think whatever she wants. Stop trying to convince her! Instead of her playing this game of, "I'm just not sure that you will forgive me", turn it around and say, "As long as I'm not seeing you do the necessary work, then you just may be right". "Before you require so much from me, don't you think it's only right that you show me that you are willing to do what I need to trust you again"?
Look Trumpet, don't buy that part about this being her only hang-up. That is nothing but B.S. Her hang-up was you requiring no contact with the OM and being transparent. She is doing her old WW trick of twisting it around. If you let her slide by, she's going to play you again.
Don't be asking her if she's sure this time. It shouldn't be about her so much, now, it should be if you are willing to take the hance of being stabbed in the back again. She should know that it's just not that simple now.
If you don't make her work for it, she won't stick with it. She has not had to pursue you at all.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
