You've got a lot on your plate emotionally. It will take a bit more time for you regain your footing. Perfectly understandable.
You might want to think about IC, if not yet have one. Shop around for one that you can connect with and will push you with compassion instead of pussy footing around you.
Yes, I have SEEN you grow because I do visit your threads. That is something that NO ONE can take away from you. It is yours to own and claim for yourself.
All of this a process. Not a competition to get from point A to point B and down to point Z. Like the Lotus flower, it opens up at its own sweet time.
One final comment is that you might want take up Brene Brown as I've seen DBers swear by it. It might be something worthwhile for you to explore on your own and with IC.