Rollercoaster at rest: now what?

[Sotto]

Hi NYG, I'm pleased for you if there are some positive signs from your W. That said, I would encourage you to keep your expectations very low, and keep moving forward with your own stuff. It would be pretty unusual for a WAS to have regrets at such an early stage AND let the AP go for good. Generally, there would be some cycling back and forth and confusion or possible cake-eating. Mostly, WAS's at this early stage tend to want both worlds and aren't ready to let one entirely go.

I don't want to burst your bubble at all, only encourage caution on your part. I don't want you to get dragged onto the rollercoaster again, when you have been through so much stuff recently. I would say - sit tight, and let your W approach you again if she wishes.

If she does share stuff with you, thank her for doing that, and tell her you'll think about what she has said - but avoid making any big decisions or agreeing to a course of action. Come back here and post for advice first.

I know like many of us you feel desperate for some hope of a possible R. But generally slow is good in these matters and taking some time and space here will do no harm at all. JMHO, and hopefully others will be along with some thoughts too.

Take care xx