She just let me know the divorce complain will be coming this week so I need to decide if I stay and they go our not. I am so upset and can't focus on anything
I know its over but wanted to do this the right way for my D but she is way off now.
What did your L say about staying in the house?
What did your L say about custody?
Did you have your L run the numbers?
The reality is your old M/R is dead. It wasn't working. You can't argue that, otherwise you wouldn't be here. I find that many people are motivated to change if/when they have lost or are about to lose something dear. Myself included. Dust yourself off and get back on the path of healing. Life isn't going to wait for you my friend.
Whether you have a new M/R with your W or with new person, you have to improve your relationship skills. The more tools you have at your disposal, the better off you will be in the future. The feeling you have right now, should motivate you to never return to this living he11.
See, most of us come here in hopes of saving our M/R. What we find is that we must first save ourselves. Similar to the instructions we receive at the beginning of a flight. You must first put your oxygen on, before putting it on your children.
I realize today is difficult and these feelings that you are experiencing suk. Sadly, it is part of the journey. We are here to support you and you will overcome this. You gotta believe. I've seen it happen.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
