Here again after 9 years and struggling 3

[Zues126]

I just meant think about what your low numbers looked like, then do better within the bounds of your current sitch.

So if you, at your worst, rolled your eyes and dismissed what he said...work on validating and treating him with respect. Etc.

The thing is it isn't usually that one dimensional. Sometimes there is a sensitivity or fear or neediness or something that exposes an emotional nerve to where one can almost feel like they have no alternative response when someone rubs up against that nerve. They can't help but react and protect themselves. So often changing the reaction involves understanding where the sensitive spots are and doing some soul searching to find ways to change that.