She came in sheepishly an hour later asking for my help (I'm a mechanic) but I told her, "sorry, it is no longer anything to do with me or any of my business. If the guy buying it want to book it in with me i'd take a look but would charge as a normal customer"
This is great detaching. So many people mess this part up or don't realize the freedom they have when their partner is acting flaky and wants to separate or divorce. My own wife would still want me to do things for her or tell me what to do (she loves to tell me what to do). I stole a line from American Beauty and told her very calmly that she doesn't get to tell me what to do anymore. There were also times when I was going out at night to do some GAL and she'd want to know everything about where I was going or what I was doing. I'd tell her that I plan my comings and goings with my team and she doesn't want to be part of that team any longer so she doesn't need to know anything about what I have going on.
They want what they can't have. Maybe that's a stupid concept but it's the God's honest truth. If you're a guarantee then they don't want you. Never be a guarantee for anyone. A true loving marriage is where you both never stop trying to earn the other's love. Never take each other as a given. We both did that. When she strayed I wised up and changed. She didn't respond so I gave up and moved on. That was the thing that got her back, ironically enough, is when I no longer wanted her.
