I see good results when I stick to the DB plan. Then I question what I've seen, overthink it and get depressed. But the fact is, as MWD has written, I have to notice the small improvements in his interactions with me. And they ARE there.
Thank you for this. I am doing the exact same thing. I talk myself out of the positives, once a couple days pass, and I need to remember that we have had a bunch of small positive steps.
This is so easy to do. It really is better to write it down immediately before our minds take the info for an emotional ride. Their emotions are up and down, too. I swear I could see my H struggle...as if he was saying in his head, "wait. You aren't supposed to like her... be comfortable... or enjoy her..." then go back to ignoring me. Then start to be "normal" again. They have an inner turmoil, too. We have to DB and keep our eyes open.
Over thinking is my enemy too.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
