I used to have a full and busy life and now I'm just a mess.
So, it's time to get back to that. What steps will you take today to "refill" your life?
Originally Posted By: NYGal
And I have to keep getting better. I have to.
Again, I ask to you: what are you going to do to get better? It isnt going to just 'happen'.
My advice - take this: I have to remember: the affair can't last if she already has "major concerns". We had such a sweet and tender relationship and we loved each other deeply. We will get another chance. and file it away in some lock box. We all know that the A is doomed. But you cant focus on it. The more you focus on it, the more difficult time you have in rebuilding. Leave W, OW, your R, their A, all of it....let it be. Because here's a secret - just because the A ends, it doesnt mean W will want to take you back AND it doesnt mean you will want to take HER back.
It's time for you to take control of YOUR life. What fun stuff do you have planned this week? What new people are you going to meet?
