Making eye contact is a great skill to havehave and your W would be a great person for you to practice it. Just be careful not to over extend the eye contact. Too much eye contact can be seen as intimidating or attempting to intimidate. You can also practice on yourself in the mirror.
I have meant to comment on the eye contacting, also. Not just to you, but to all LBH'S in general. If you over-kill, it will look creepy. Let me give a few comparisons. Say you are reading the morning newspaper at the breakfast table and she starts talking to you. That is the time to put the paper aside (or at least, look over the top) and look at her while she's speaking. If both of you are cleaning up the kitchen and she's gather plates and cleaning off the table while you are washing up the dishes.........don't completely stop the dish washing or whatever you're doing and turn around to look at her every time she says something. That would be a little freaky, IMO. B/c both of you would be working on the same project and causually chatting. You would continue working, while glancing her way a few times, maybe nodd your head so that she knows you are listening. IOW, try to keep it natural.
Now, if you were the only one in the kitchen cleaning up, and she came into the room to obviously have a conversation about something, and she was being respectful, then you could stop your job and look at her until she was through with the conversation. If she was just walking through the room and sort of throwing a statement at you, I don't think it calls for you to immediately stop everything to try to look deep into her eyes. You might glance her way, and if she keeps walking, you continue with your work. Does this make sense?
You have to stay balanced with this stuff or you wil come across as physco weird.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
