WOW! This is a great explanation Zues, and exactly what has happened in my M.
It leaves me feeling that there really isn't any hope for my M, as H has already told me, I blew it a long time ago by treating him how I did. I felt I had my reasons, and as your 'card game' has shown, he felt he had his too.
Not really sure where this leaves me. I really don't think I would be like this with anyone else because I wasn't like it before and this is my 2nd M. My first one ended after a very short time because he was violent towards me and spent most nights out pretending to work but actually out on the town with several other women. I would and did do anything for my current WAH, I adored him and felt so lucky to have him in my life after my disastrous 1st M. He was the guy who would never hurt me (his words).
Obviously I have a lot of work to do on myself but I do not think it will save my M. Or, does your card game mean that I should now be playing 10s to my H in an effort to show how loving I can be even in the face of nothing in return?
