Stepping in a Different Direction

[Pax_luv]

Thanks V!

Hope everyone is well- I'd like to ask for some feedback.

H put an offer on the table in terms of what he wants to offer me in a potential MSA. He thinks he's being very generous. He doesn't want lawyers involved and doesn't think we should go through an official filing, just submit a MSA so it can't be reversed in the actual divorce.

He got super defensive about me just wanting what is fair stating that it's just going to mess everything up, even mentioning that I may have to pay him SS. He put his "settlement" offer on the table and said I need to let him know if I want it by today otherwise it's off the table for good because he has decisions he needs to make.

Aside from the fact that this is controlling and assanine, I'm wondering if I should even respond? I ask because not responding and ignoring an issue, thus hoping it would go away would be totally predictable of the old Feyth. The new Feyth doesn't bury issues. So, do you think a text would suffice?

I want to be snarky and educate him on relationships... Cuz this is a pattern that he needs to change..... But I wont!!!


Gah- the controlling thing. Blech! Why would I want that back? It reminds of how sh**ty things were a year and a half ago when he would say stuff like, if we're not pregnant in two months, there's no point in being married. See back then, I would be passive aggressive and ignore it because I couldn't handle being controlled and didn't know how to stick up for myself either. Ohhhh, but I promise you that will NEVER be me again!